The Drama Club!

And here is where the story begins:

Everyone has these types of people in their life. It's how far are you willing to sit back and take their crap that matters. I was not so willing a person to let someone or anyone take over what I worked so hard to obtain.

The Drama Queens that crept into my personal life over a year ago, planted a seeds from back in the '70's, which was long before I entered the picture by not to far after my husband left the area, he would return years later to the Atlantic City area. Me, I still was not in the picture at this poin in time. But this woman began the Drama and sucked in two other woman convincing them her stories of woe were true.

I met my husband who was 44 at the time, I was 32 in 1987. We were married in 1987 and I gave birth to my first beautiful baby girl 11/1/87. We purchased our first home in 1987 but within 8 months of the birth of my first we would learn that this tiny yet loving home would be way to small for the second child that was on the way. On 10/26/89 I gave birth to my second beautiful baby girl and while in the hospital we moved into our second home. This is when the "DRAMA CLUB" was bout to TRY and crush my world. They had no idea just how strong a person they were about to deal with when comfronted and placed under pressure, my husband had not idea as well.

I type the word "TRY" as you will see further in the reading they just are not that bright of women to do anything that would have me not stand strong and true to the man I married, even though he took their side I remain loyal to my marriage and vowels and true to myself honor. I donot give up, I work things out. usually in the as you will read I come out victorious because I have truth on my side.

My husband worked the second shift, worked a 6pm to 2am shift. Me, I started back to work after the birth of my first daughter however by the time the second one came and the third beautiful daughter it was to our advantage I resign and stay home to save on child care expenses, actually I wanted to be home anyway I loved those years being with my kids.

In 1989 a Wednesday in the month of November the first call came into my home at 4:30am EST. My husband fast asleep I got up and answered the phone. The voice was that of what seemed to be a much older woman, sounded rather intoxicated, the speech was extremely slurred. Looking down to my caller IK I noticed an area code unknown to me. She slurred out sentences asking if she called the home of Ted *******. I assured her it was my husband's home, she then began to tell me he was the father of her child and if I had any kids then her daughter had siblings she wanted to get to know. My reaction at that poin was "Oh wow a Jerry Springer Show in the making". I did as anyone would have done at 4:30am being comfronted on a phone by a drunken fool, I told the woman to go have another drink or pop some more of her happy pills but never dial this number again. Whn I was able to look up the area code it was from Seattle, Washington. I told Ted and gave him the number. He called her without me present. So I am not sure what she said to him but he told me he took care of the situation. Uh huh, sure he did!

These calls, her arrogance and drunken status did not let up, so I am not so sure how well my husband handle things. The calls came at an average of 5 to 6 calls per week for the next 2 months. I know because I retrieved all the phone records from 1989 to 2008. My dad raised no dummy! What we did next or rather what my husband decided to do was, change our number and have it unlisted, smart but for the most part exactly what I expected him to do. See with him it is if you "turn out the light the problem does not exist." He would learn different. We were not getting any calls from a drunk who makes accusations and is full of deceitfulness and lies. Or at least we thought that was the end of it. For the next 13 years not one call. Her name by the way is now Kathy Bashaw. Her name has changed so many times over the years that I use her most current.

Then it happened what I got was a phone call from Kathy's daughter. The phone rings I answered it looking again to caller ID I noticed again a 253 exchange. The voice on the other end said "Hi I am I think Ted's daughter, my mother who is dying told me Ted was my father and if you have daughters they are my sisters I need to talk to Ted". I will save the reading public my verbal reaction to this "psycho" woman who I learned later is named Robyn Haines Murphy Shalikashvili. Now you can screw with me all you want but the minute you bring my kids into it, you will not get out of this situation in one piece. Basically I told this "psycho" Robyn that I was sorry to hear about her mom but there is true meaning in the pharse "acorn does not fall far from the tree", she was just as wacked as her mother." I also told her if and when I see Ted I will be sure to tell him she called. That happend in December of 2007.

Well here comes another call this time from yet another woman. The voice on the phone announced to me that she was a "dear" friend to Ted and her name was Janice and if I would be so kind as to let her know she called. Hmm, 22 years married to Ted and not once did he mention this name. But I again noticed the phone number, wrote down and looked the information up. A number from Williamstown, NJ area, a cell number at that, Janice Kerr LaFlam, I even got her homeline and address. I informed Ted of this persons phone call, I asked who she was he just said someone he knew long ago. He called her from his cell phone (yep I got all those records as well) again while I was not around. Then another name comes into the picture a Karen Troup who lived down the street where we use to live, yet another friend from his past. This was when I realized "WHO THE HELL DID I MARRY" Seems this Janice was going to hand off emails for him from Robyn, she would give them to Karen so he could read. She told Ted he would be very proud of Robyn and to call her his daughter. I know this because I read the emails, actually have copies of them in storage in a safe place. It was at that point that I told Ted enough is enough. I want DNA. It also was at this point I started to lose my faith and trust in Ted. It's a hard thing to admit to yourself but when your spouse is willing to spend money on a DNA test that is free then turn around and bitch and complain to his REAL kids about spending money I wonder just how loyal a man I did marry. Not only that but when doing this frigging DNA test I was again excluded from being with him. He kept me at arms length and in the dark the entire time. I believe he made a trip to Nightshade Lane in Williamstown to visit with Janice his new found old friend. I was so stupid to believe that the past has nothing to do with the current. He proved to me that anyone can lie and I proved to him anyone can find out the truth!

So Robyn is like loving her new found thought of having Ted as her dad. Kathy is swearing that he is the father, Janice is telling him how wonderful it is they found each other and me I am alone dealing with this situation that his fucking penis created.

DNA done! Waiting game begins and still Ted telling me nothing yet communicating with this Robyn psycho the entire time.

Results in from CA. 99.999% miss match negative Ted is not the father. When the psycho called to tell Ted I deliberately intercepted the call. I asked for the results the wanna be daughter said " I don't feel comfortable talking to you about this situation". I thought you stupid poor misguided fool I already know they are negative, she then continued by saying "you know I am the innocent one in all of this". Which left the door wide open for a tongue lashing from me. I told her I knew what her fucking game was, that if she thinks for one minute she is going to walk into my life and that of my daughters she is more sick they she realizes that I have already decided that no back child support would be given that she would get nothing. She told me "oh we will see about that". Little did anyone know that I had already hired a lawyer, put into motion a restraining order with the police if needed. NO not even Ted knew this but if you fuck with me you better bring your best fighters to the fight because I am not going down.